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Originally Posted by Sheba
There is a balance between extremes, BS. You can spank without "beating the crap" out of a child. You can scold without using words that are abusive. The point of discipline is teaching a child not to repeat a behavior. Punishment should fit the crime.
An example - if my 11 year old son leave his dirty laundry on the floor repeatedly, he has to do all the laundry for a week. That's discipline - and teaching a skill at the same time.
No spanking or scolding involved. He's more responsible and has laundry skills, too.
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You can't spank a child that doesn't live with you, period. How are you going to get your hands on them?
BTW, if your son lived with his dad (like Alec's daughter lives with her Mom) how would you make him to do laundry for a week? Would the child only be punished when visiting you? Yeah, that's going to improve the relationship with your near teen son dramatically, right?
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And what if your son tells you no, he's not going to do the laundry for a week? All we know is that Alec's daughter missed an appointment, not if it was accidental or intentional....