Your Thoughts

[Texasbelle]

Very well said Latenight. I haven't suffered the loss of a sibling but I have lost both my parents in a five year period. It seems like just yesterday they were both here but yet it has been five years since my father died and nine months since my mom. Two years probably is nothing when suffering the loss of a child. I do think for the sake of the other children the best thing a parent could do is try and get back to some kind of a normal sooner rather than later. We are all equipped differently though and these folks just might not be able. Also, are they getting some help? I am sure that Oprah with her generous heart will ensure they do.

[piemaker720]

Like I said, I understand That they lost a child and is grieving. I also know 2 years is not very long. But Like I said they have 3 other children that ranged in age from 2 to 8. For the parents and grand-parents to say they could not have anymore family functios or celebrate anymore holidays because of the loss of the one child. I still say they have 3 other children, that seems to be missing out on alot. To me it seems as they are saying the one child was more important than the others. I'm not saying not to grieve but try to come together as a family, start living, give the rest of the kids a life. Start showing them they are important and are precious and loved.

[AnimeSpirit]

The whole point of mourning for the deceased to remember them. Mourning is suppose to be a very brief state and it is unhealthy to be in this state long. I'm sure the death of a child is very hard to get over and I'm sure it takes time, but let's look at the child's point of view.

If you were that child and you died in that accident, would you want the rest of your family, in essense, to die with you? Would you want all of the living, joy, and happiness that you knew in life to come to an end because you're no longer around? Would you want your family to wither into a dark brooding depression that would eventually be their ending? Simplest of all, would you want to be the deceased child to look down from above and never again see smiles or hear laughter?

Since the early days of man, we have always believed that the dead deserve whatever it takes to let them rest in peace. Lacking the proper emotional fortitude and ability to rise above the sadness and say good bye to the dearly departed only robs them of their peace. Remembrance with a tear, but having the strength to smile...this is the key to mourning in peace.

[piemaker720]

You are so true. You can mourn for years over the loss of a child, but it doesn't mean the other children have to mourn or miss out on life because of it. Every child should be able to live life to the fulliest. The live ones are just important as the one that no longer lives. They should not be made to suffer along with the adults.