Internet Pornography, Harmless Fun?

[scarlett]

http://mentalhelp.net/poc/view_index...9&d=1&w=5&e=87

here are a few things it says about it. It took me a while to read all the comments but I will say very interesting how women think vs men.

Harmful Effects of Internet Pornography

Internet Pornography:
-Threatens marital and intimate relationships.
- Is experienced as being isolating and depressing.
- Shares many qualities of other addictions, such as not being able to control the impulse to view it.
- Threatens employment if done at work.
- Is extremely unproductive and leads to frustration on the part of the viewer.
- Due to the interactive nature of the Internet, can lead to direct contact with the models on the adult sites.
- Can harm the self esteem of some men who feel adolescent in viewing these sites and masturbating.
- Is offensive to many wives and girl friends who often feel rejected and not good enough as a result.
- Angers people who consider it to be exploitive and debasing to women.
- There is always worry that children could discover the pornography on computers used at home.

[Al Swearengen]

I'd be willing to bet it would bother most men if they discovered their wives/girlfriends kept a stash of beefcake mags hidden somewhere or were viewing it on the net. It'd sure as hell bother me...only way such a thing would NOT bother me is if I had no romantic interest in said woman.

[joepole]

That is the most BS-laden thing I've ever read.

-Threatens marital and intimate relationships.

No, it doesn't. Someone who abuses pornography (or abuses anything) threatens a relationship.

- Is experienced as being isolating and depressing.

By whom? not by me.

- Shares many qualities of other addictions, such as not being able to control the impulse to view it.

It also shares many qualities of religion, eating, or being an astronaut.

- Threatens employment if done at work.

So what? That's a problem with your choice of venue, not with your chosen pastime. Other things that threaten employment if done at work: Swearing, sleeping, arguing, eating, drinking, staring at the wall, praying, smoking, and farting.


- Is extremely unproductive and leads to frustration on the part of the viewer.

On the contrary, it is extremely satisfying if done correctly.

- Due to the interactive nature of the Internet, can lead to direct contact with the models on the adult sites.

You can pick up women anywhere. I would wager that porn stars are less approachable than most other women due to all the crazies.

- Can harm the self esteem of some men who feel adolescent in viewing these sites and masturbating.

If you feel bad for masturbating then there's all kinds of things wrong with you that have nothing to do with pornography.

- Is offensive to many wives and girl friends who often feel rejected and not good enough as a result.

Those women are offensive to me, we're even.

- Angers people who consider it to be exploitive and debasing to women.

People who consider it to be exploitive and debasing to women anger me. Again, we're even.

- There is always worry that children could discover the pornography on computers used at home.

No, there is not always that worry. I don't worry about it.

[Isaac-Saxxon]

Yes it has been around for thousands of years and many cultures have used children to meet the lust of adults. There are some very sick porn movies and freaky stuff with animals. I know you guys may think I am judging here but porn is not good a very best. You do as you please but I am with Al and I would not be happy to find my wife with porn flicks in the closet and I know she would be very unhappy to find them in mine. That is my family and yes this is America and your choice is just that your choice. Moral decline never ever helped a country ever
Isaac

[AnimeSpirit]

Originally Posted by joepole

So what? That's a problem with your choice of venue, not with your chosen pastime. Other things that threaten employment if done at work: Swearing, sleeping, arguing, eating, drinking, staring at the wall, praying, smoking, and farting.

LOL! You got a point there. Although porn at work would probably get you fired quicker than staring at the wall. Still though, I agree with you on that respect.

My position on this topic is simple. If you're single, then by all means, check out all the porn you like and keep it to yourself, but put them away and delete them from the computer when/if you enter a steady relationship. However, if you're already in a relationship, you shouldn't need the porn and shouldn't risk offending your other with it. It is not hard to understand that some women (particularly women with low self-esteem) may feel inadequate when faced with a man who would prefer porn instead of her. It's insulting and too many men are ignorant of this fact! If you are truly committed and attracted to another person, there is NO good reason for having or even desiring porn! If you truly do prefer the porn instead, then you are not committed and should not waste her time! Nuf said!

Now, I am not beyond the concept that some committed lovers like to watch video porns together to excite themselves or discover more exotic means of satisfying each other's sexual desires. This, when mutually agreed upon, can be productive to the relationship if both parties are comfortable in doing so.

[Bob]

LMAO. You all are too funny. Interesting thread.
I suppose there's porn, and then there's porn. You know.
Who's to say a good porn flick couldn't be the inspiration for you and your partner to try something new and exciting .. TOGETHER ??
just a thought.

I should get bonus points for that one

[Al Swearengen]

Bomp chikka bow now bomp chikka bow now

[Bob]

Originally Posted by Al Swearengen

Bomp chikka bow now bomp chikka bow now

LOL.. I GET IT ! I'm a little slow this evening

[joepole]

>If you are truly committed and attracted to another person, there is NO good reason for having or even desiring porn!

That's absurd. One has nothing to do with the other.

[AnimeSpirit]

Originally Posted by joepole

That's absurd. One has nothing to do with the other.

Sure they do! When you have a woman to look at and satisfy your sexual desires, why would you need porn? Now, I admit that some men complain that their women do not do so often enough. However, this is an issue aside of propriety. Reversely, if your woman finds that you prefer pornography, then she would feel like she doesn't look good enough for you. It would naturally upset her.

Originally Posted by Bob

Who's to say a good porn flick couldn't be the inspiration for you and your partner to try something new and exciting .. TOGETHER ??
just a thought.

Exactly! That is not unlike the suggestion I made in my previous post.

[joepole]

Porn and real women satisfy different desires. One does not take the place of the other.

[Isabella]

LOL, now we know how some people spend their time.

[LateNight]

uh oh.. all this talk of pornography, we're sure to attract the attention of the Shreveport Police Internet division

[AnimeSpirit]

You know, maybe we should've made this topic a poll.

[scarlett]

All of my comments are after his

Originally Posted by joepole

That is the most BS-laden thing I've ever read.

-Threatens marital and intimate relationships.

>No, it doesn't. Someone who abuses pornography (or abuses anything) threatens a relationship.

Apparently it does read the replies after this I'm shocked honestly at them. I figured most were like you which 99% of women can't stand in a man.

- Is experienced as being isolating and depressing.

>By whom? not by me.

Of course not you have no morals it pretty much shows.

- Shares many qualities of other addictions, such as not being able to control the impulse to view it.

>It also shares many qualities of religion, eating, or being an astronaut.

Delusional and lying to yourself that's for sure. Pretty obvious with this astronaut comment

- Threatens employment if done at work.

>So what? That's a problem with your choice of venue, not with your >chosen pastime. Other things that threaten employment if done at work: >Swearing, sleeping, arguing, eating, drinking, staring at the wall, >praying, smoking, and farting.

Well it's everyone's problem that would be involved if you were fired for it. Your wife with those 2 small girls would just love for you to get fired and not be able to provide for your family due to pr0n!

- Is extremely unproductive and leads to frustration on the part of the viewer.

>On the contrary, it is extremely satisfying if done correctly.

Lust

- Due to the interactive nature of the Internet, can lead to direct contact with the models on the adult sites.

>You can pick up women anywhere. I would wager that porn stars are less >approachable than most other women due to all the crazies.

But most men won't pick up women so they tend to have the fantasies in their own home about the sluts they are jerking off to. Sure makes your wife/girlfriend feel great about herself i'm sure. Unless she doesn't mind you jerking off to slutty women.

- Can harm the self esteem of some men who feel adolescent in viewing these sites and masturbating.

>If you feel bad for masturbating then there's all kinds of things wrong >with you that have nothing to do with pornography.

Well I have to agree with you this one time. I believe masturbating can be done w/o pr0nography and this wouldn't hurt anyone.

- Is offensive to many wives and girl friends who often feel rejected and not good enough as a result.

>Those women are offensive to me, we're even.

Men like you need to be single and don't deserve anything more than a slut off the internet, nuff said!

- Angers people who consider it to be exploitive and debasing to women.

>People who consider it to be exploitive and debasing to women anger me. >Again, we're even.

Well you seem to fit this profile nuff said!

- There is always worry that children could discover the pornography on computers used at home.

>No, there is not always that worry. I don't worry about it.

Unless your 2 yr old and infant can understand how to search your computer I'm sure you don't worry about it. Just as I suspected you had very small children. It's your type of attitude that thinks it won't happen to me well wake up and smell the roses, never say never because you NEVER KNOW!

have a good day